This is a common theme in the homes of married couples and not just those where the mom/wife stays at home, but even in the instance of the wife working outside of the home.
In fact, I just read of a story where the wife had a career making freakin’ $200,000.00 a year!
What happened was…
She and her husband decided that he would sell their Microsoft stocks, the money would go into various savings accounts and that they’d live off her salary, which was MORE than enough to support the both of them.
Now, the husband was supposed to put her name on ALL of the accounts but he only had her name on one of four of them.
When she confronted him about it, he said he’d put her name on the remaining single accounts “when he got the chance”.
Well, guess what?
I guess he never “got the chance” because it NEVER happened! *side eye jeer*
Of course the couple ended up in a divorce and… the wife found herself with practically NOTHING saved up for retirement.
Sadly, many of these types of situations occur – more so with stay-at-home wives and moms.
We (stay-at-home-wives) get so caught up into taking care of the house and the kids, that we don’t bother with finding out what’s-what in terms of the finances, bills, etc.
And this becomes even MORE magnified and noticeable when the wife goes to ask her husband for money and he says, “No” for one reason or another.
So what’s a wife to do when her husband controls ALL finances?
Now I have to say that, thankfully, my husband has never been the type to just DEMAND control over the money.
In fact, he has on many occasions asked me to come and sit down next to him and learn how he budgets the finances and pays the bills.
But from other stories I’ve read and heard, I realize that this isn’t the case in many households.
Many of the stories were women who felt out of the loop or just totally shut out from all that goes on where money is concerned because their husbands either didn’t share or refused to share any details with them.
And in many of those instances, it was due to control issues by the husband.
He didn’t want his wife to know or be in “his business” since HE’S the one who goes out and earns the money and she’s “just at home”; which is a WHOLE other issue.
Sad, I know. And if that is something you’re dealing with then I’m SO sorry that you’re going through that (((HUG)))
If there are some control issues going on then it may be time to do some evaluating of your circumstances, your marriage and whether or not this can be resolved through counseling or something.
And let me say this… I am a Christian woman with a Christian husband so I know ALL about how marriage is typically approached from a Christian perspective.
While I DO believe in the biblical principles of marriage and headship, my husband and I also realize that he doesn’t need to “dominate” me and that the roles the Bible gives are not one-sided.
The scriptures say that he, as my husband, is to love me as Christ loved the church and GAVE Himself for it and also that he is to love me as he loves his own body – and NO man hates his own flesh!
There should be a level of MUTUAL RESPECT and honor as opposed to making one feel belittled or less than.
Okay, you know what?
I have more to say on this issue and this post is getting a bit long. So…
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'Til next time... bye for now!
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